I heard an article mentioned called: “The Day I Stopped Saying Hurry Up”. during a video discussion between Arianna Huffington and Jon Kabat-Zinn at the Wisdom 2 conference. If you are interested, the article can be read at this link , and it describes the mother’s recognition of a behaviour that she decides to change — telling her daughter to always hurry up.
As it turned out, the article was written by Rachel Stafford, a self described Type A, describing an insight that she had about her behaviour toward her young daughter. She describes the scene when the insight occurred like this:
“We’d just picked my older daughter up from kindergarten and were getting out of the car. Not going fast enough for her liking, my older daughter said to her little sister, “You are so slow.” And when she crossed her arms and let out an exasperated sigh, I saw myself — and it was a gut-wrenching sight”
I was curious about the article, as the sense of “hurry” has been a part of my experience for my whole life and has contributed, at times, to simply not enjoying life. I have often described it as being a “hamster on a wheel” and not having a clue how this happens or how to stop.
It is interesting to note that when I meditate, this “hurry up” pattern shows up. For example, in a breath meditation, hurrying to experience the next breath before the current one is finished…or, the experience of frustration and impatience when the meditation is not having the impact I would like.
This experience generates some challenging questions. For example, “Where are you going? What is the rush? What is it that you want?”
The insight for me is that the sense of hurry is in my control. Using mindfulness, I can see and feel clearly the sense of rush and I can purposely make a choice to slow down and to let go of any inner dialogue that is telling me “faster”.
You can watch the video of Huffington and Kabat-Zinn at the Wisdom 2 conference here.